23 Jul JUST MOVE ON
Moss Jackson, PhD
Psychologist and Success Coach
I recently caught a YouTube clip of Al Gore being interviewed by Steven Colbert.
He talked about how he, like Hillary Clinton in 2016, won the popular vote for the Presidency of the U.S. but lost the election anyway. Colbert asked him if he had given any advice to Hillary after her unexpected defeat. He said no and that she did not really need it. From his perspective, she was doing what he did when he lost the election to George Bush and that was to just “Move On.”
Moving on is a skill set practiced by Life Navigators. It is the ability to absorb a loss, failure or disappointment, and quickly recover one’s footing and to then get back on track. In my book “Navigating For Success: Passion, Goals and Action,” I describe the NFS formula: Success = Passion, Goals, Action and Resilience.
Navigators tend to be energized into action through their passion and vision. Survivors and Victims, on the other hand, tend to be more reactive to their circumstances and more likely to stay stuck in frustration, anger and disappointment. Navigators take on challenges and experience upsets much like their Survivor acquaintances, but they also acknowledge their frustrations, quickly learn from their experiences and “move on,” much like Al Gore did after his loss to President Bush.
What can you do to build up your capacity to move on toward your vision and toward what is important to you? Here are some ideas to try out:
- Be clear what you are shooting for re your goals.
- Gather your resources and take focused and daily actions to accomplish your goals.
- When you hit the wall or suffer a failure, acknowledge your disappointment and share it with your close friends. Get some empathy and support.
- Ask yourself what caused the failure. Do not attack yourself with shame or guilt. It is not personal. Shit happens!
- Figure out an action you can take ASAP to get back on track. As the old adage goes, “When you fall off your horse, get back on it as soon as you can!”
- Bring some self-compassion to yourself for your effort and courage.
- Go for a small win or victory to begin rebuilding your confidence.
YOU ARE IN GOOD COMPANY.
After all, if Al Gore and Hillary Clinton, along with a raft of previous “Failures,” such as Pres Lincoln, Thomas Edison, Nelson Mandela, Walt Disney, Robert Downey Jr. and Sir Richard Branson could crash and recover, so can you. Just practice the art of “Moving On.”