06 Sep HOW UNHAPPY DO YOU DESERVE TO BE?
Moss Jackson, PhD
Psychologist Success Coach
From the Beatles:
“He was a nowhere man
From a nowhere land!”
HOW UNHAPPY ARE YOU?
On a scale of 1-10, how unhappy are you right now?
Do you deserve to be happy?
Why!?
Let’s get real, which is winning your Game of Life, Happy or Unhappy?
WHAT CAUSES UNHAPPINESS?
Is it genetics, i.e., your birth inheritance?
Your family and parents?
Early experience?
The luck of the draw?
HOW WE THINK
Every day we are bombarded with over 60,000 thoughts, 85% of which are negative. Break it down by minutes, it comes to about 40 negative thoughts a minute, be they conscious or unconscious. Given we probably are only aware of about 5% of what we think, most of what we experience is below our own awareness. If we were fully aware of all our negative thoughts, we could be driven into depression, addiction or suicide.
WHAT IS THE BASIS OF ALL THIS NEGATIVITY?
I will make it clear, practical and easy!
It is based on what your beliefs are!
WHAT ARE BELIEFS?
Beliefs are based on your thoughts, perceptions and conclusions about your life. Here is a sample of some popular unhappy beliefs:
“I don’t deserve to be loved”
“I’m not love-able”
“I’m not smart enough”
“It’s every man for himself”
“The best defense is being on the offense”
“No one really cares”
“No point in trying, I will fail anyway”
THE SECRET
These are all negative beliefs that determine how your life turns out. You may not know this powerful secret: your thoughts and beliefs determine your reality, what you experience and how your life turns out. It is not any more complicated than that. How unhappy you deserve to be comes down to what you believe about your life.
THE MOVIE WE ALL LIVE
From very early on we are taking in everything we see, hear and feel. For the first five years of life, almost all of this is through your emotional brain and unconscious mind, a kind of movie camera that is just endlessly filming your life as you experience it. One reason you cannot remember much about these early experiences is because not much is being laid down in your conscious memory. It gets stored deep in your unconscious, that part of your mind that runs like a record player or movie, storing everything for the rest of your life.
INFLUENCE
Your basic beliefs about life, happiness, success, self-worth and safety are formed during these early years and get powerfully coded into your neural brain paths. Much later on in life, these beliefs play out the movie that got recorded so many years earlier. While they usually do not vanish or fade away, they exert their influence through your current feelings, attitudes and beliefs about life.
WHAT YOU CAN DO TO GET A HAPPIER LIFE?
BASIC BELIEFS
If you are unhappy, check out your basic beliefs. Are they critical, pessimistic and negative? If you want to be happier, you will probably have to change your negative beliefs. On the simplest level, first acknowledge your negative thinking, then ask yourself if your thoughts is true and if you have real evidence to back them up. Usually, there is scant evidence for your terrible beliefs. If you bring some creativity and courage to the belief package, you can change your beliefs to better support your dreams and visions for a good life.
VISION
Vision or picture yourself achieving your dream or goal. Feel it, see it and really experience the pleasure of achieving it. Don’t wish for it or think you will have it one day in the future. No, have it now as if it is actually happening. When you are fully immersed in your experience, ask yourself what belief would better serve you to succeed, receive love or to feel safe.
A MORNING PRACTICE
Every day start your morning with five things you are grateful for and recreate the desired state in your mind and body. Then recite out loud five times your new belief statement for success. Feel it in your emotions. The reason you have to feel it with your senses and body is because that process is necessary to change your original beliefs that are stored in your unconscious movie.
Here are some happiness beliefs:
“I am enjoying giving and receiving love every day”
“Every day I love learning and getting smarter”
“I like having the courage to take on challenges”
If you want to learn more powerful ways to change your beliefs to feel happier and more successful, look up Bruce Lipton’s work or order my new book “I Didn’t Come To Say Goodbye” from Amazon.
You Deserve To Be Happy!