01 Dec Alliances and Outside Affiliations
Remember the saying, “two’s company, three’s a crowd?” The saying focusing on the observation many parents have made about how well two children can get along and how quickly cooperation and sharing can evaporate and the twosome becomes a threesome: one child is usually left out.
A two-person partnership can work well for a long period of time. Problems can emerge, though, if one partner develops a close working alliance or affiliation with an outside party. Whether it be three children or three adults, a three-person relationship can be difficult to manage.
A useful strategy is for the two partners to discuss the pros and cons of developing an outside alliance. If partners see a value in such an initiative, it’s important for them to come to terms with regard to several issues such as: • What role will the outside affiliate play?
- Who will be involved in establishing the relationship?
- How can the partners keep trust and bonding intact as on partner develops a working alliance with the third party?
- How will the partners deal with jealousy when the outside party and a partner becomes connected or bonded?
Bottom Line
- If a third party alliance is to be mentioned, make sure there is clarity as to the desired outcome, risk management, and open communication.
- Watch out for threats to the original partnership
- Don’t be too mature. You’re still socially bonded people who need to ensure safety, connection, and straight talk in your partnership.